I am so overwhelmed by life right now that the word ‘overwhelmed’ doesn’t even really mean anything anymore. It’s like ‘awesome,’ so overused that it’s impact has been reduced to uselessness. I wish I could tell you some big sweeping drama that’s tripping me up, but it’s really more like the minute patterns of my days.
About 14 or 15 months ago things started to go all wonky for me. Since then each month has brought some new and hitherto un-thought of obstacle. I have for more than a year been waiting for whichever thing it is to pass/complete/recover so that I can get on with every day life and making plans for the future. And surely the cycle of unexpected things never ends, but it seems I’ve hit a lull. I’ve weathered the oral surgeries; the long term separation from a loved one; the break up; the 500 year flood; the resulting work over load; the scalding, torturously hot summer; planning, moving and completely and totally rearranging my life, my plans and my future. And I gotta say, ya’ll, I’m tired. Like soul tired. I want to relax and figure out if I even know anymore how to let go of anxiety and worry. I want to read a book for hours on end, uninterrupted so I can reset myself to creativity. I want to remember how to think about designing and forming things with my own hands, simply creating things. I want to plan menus and buy groceries and quietly cook in my own kitchen. I want to relax in my own personal (physical) space, unencumbered by outside demands on my time, my energy, my love and my mental peace.
At this point, I guess I just need to find a chair. The right chair. For the last few months, when I try and imagine this particular part of whatever thing it is now being over (mostly moving etc.), I close my eyes and I see a circle of light from a lamp over a comfortable place to sit and read or think or draw or sew or simply imagine goodness. Moving has given me and Talk to Owls both space to stretch out and find calm again. I been working (ugh, working, so over it in any context) to make this space my own, our own, simply someplace that is comfortable and safe and filled only with the things we need to live and create. Still I lack this imaginary chair. I can’t quite see it’s dimensions or design, but I know it’s out there. It is the next thing to strive for: completing a space of relaxation and a place in which to gather myself back together and get ready, be stronger for, the many more rounds of unexpectedness that life is sure to bring me.